Are you concerned about your elderly parent having a car accident? Telling mom or dad that it’s time to relinquish their car keys and give up driving can be one of the most difficult conversations for adult children. At the same time, avoiding “the talk” can be a matter of life or death. Statistics from the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety (IIHS)
reveal that the death rate for drivers who are 70 or older is three times the rate of drivers ages 35 to 54.
A 2014 Liberty Mutual Insurance survey of 1,000 adults ages 75 and above revealed that 84 percent of senior drivers were open to talking about either limiting or stopping driving. At the same time, a mere 6 percent have had a conversation with anyone about their driving abilities.
According to Key-Whitman Eye Center President and Chief Surgeon Jeffrey Whitman, M.D., “This is a very delicate subject, and it needs to be handled by the family early on. It’s very helpful if you can have ‘the talk’ before there’s ever a problem with mom’s or dad’s driving. It’s also important to have a plan to help them maintain their independence once their keys are taken away.”
Along with vision conditions, there are a number of issues that impede a senior’s ability to drive safely, including: medications, slower reaction times, declining muscle strength and mental health challenges (Alzheimer’s disease, dementia, senility). However, one of the most treatable issues that keep seniors from driving is cataracts.
“Cataracts are the No. 1 issue eye doctors can correct to get seniors back on the road quickly, and cataract surgery is something we perform here on a daily basis. Along with loss of clarity, there are three common signs that people typically experience when they
have cataracts,” Dr. Whitman says. These cataract symptoms and signs include:
Dr. Whitman also encourages seniors to get an annual eye exam in case other treatable eye conditions are making it difficult to drive. “We can treat some conditions with vitamin supplements or nutraceuticals, monitor and treat diabetic eye conditions and often times find that a simple change in an eye glasses prescription is all that the patient needs,” he adds.
Dr. Whitman believes it’s helpful if there’s an agreement to openly discuss when either side has concerns (child notices a couple of dents in the car, parent says they are nervous driving or if there’s an accident or close call.)
Says Dr. Whitman, “The best thing to do is to go on a drive together. The adult child should monitor the senior’s response time, agility and whether they remember to look both ways before crossing an intersection. I also encourage adult children to accompany their parents on all doctor’s appointments, especially at age 65 and beyond. That’s the best way to stay on top of their parents overall health.”
Dr. Whitman encourages families to be proactive and tackle the issue early together. Being respectful of your parents desire to maintain a degree of independence is key. “You have to have a family plan so mom and dad know how they are going to get to the store, how they are going to get to church, and most important, how they will keep their independence,” Dr. Whitman advises.
If you suspect your elderly parent is having difficulty driving, don’t avoid “the talk” a minute longer. Odds are good that they will be receptive to talking with you about their driving abilities. And make it a priority to schedule an eye exam for mom or dad as soon as possible. If vision problems are at the root of your elderly parent’s driving issues, cataract surgery or a new pair of glasses could easily extend their years on the road, as long as other troubling health conditions aren’t present.